Good news for today, a day of rest. Lea’s systems appear to be holding steady today, and she didn’t go through the two-three hour recovery cycle after Sunday’s surgery, but, rather, rebounded without any difficulty at all. It was wonderful to experience it, and gives us hope that her chances of recovery will continue to improve.
Thank you to those who took time to send Lea an eGreeting over the weekend. I had a nice handful to read to her during the day today. It is really gratifying to see her open her eyes slightly, or sometimes, even, wrinkle her forehead a little as I read your name to her. Those are about the only responses I get from her, and only during those periods when the nurses let her come up a little from the sedatives . . . just enough she doesn’t grimace from the pain in her stomach, but enough to open her eyes or blink, or wiggle her toes on command.
I know it is hard to understand how important your emails and eGreetings are, but believe me, they are treasured on this end. They are reminders that she is loved, certainly, and reminds her of those who are special to her. Those of you whom I haven’t met really touch my heart when you send your special thoughts to her. It is wonderful to be your messenger, and it is a privilege to have an insight into how special she is to you.
Lea is very special. I knew it when I met her, and she has continued to prove it over and over during the 43 years we have been together. One of the more important things that I need to share with you relates to the personal relationship Lea and I have in our lives together. It is natural, I think, for you to feel that I may be asking Lea to fight for recovery from this illness so I don’t have to lose her or give her up. That I am asking her to stay here only for my benefit, when she may not want to stay here.
We are reaching the age when our bodies are beginning to show wear and tear. Lea’s family has a history of arthritis and bad joints, high blood pressure and cholesterol. She, bless her heart, is beginning to feel the effects of these maladies, and is self conscious about the joints in her fingers swelling because of arthritis, a knee that is giving out, and will eventually have to be replaced.
I know that she has gone through discomfort and pain with her hands almost every day, and that even simple things can be a problem for her at times. But, we talk about these things all the time, and that I will help her with anything she needs help with. Those of you who know her, know that she is a fighter, and that she will continue to do for herself as long as it is possible for her to do so. But, she knows that I am here to help her, too.
So, when she began to get so very sick with this present illness, and I spent ten hours in the emergency room with her watching her deteriorate so quickly, we had time to have a heart to heart talk. Nothing we hadn’t said to each other many times before, but, as her pain was increasing, and she began to drop deeper and deeper into sedation, we knew that this was a serious situation. We had the talk about, “I’ve loved loving you,” “You’ve been my best friend,” “I don’t want to lose you, but if you have to go, I understand.”
So, today, when I talk to Lea, I tell her how strong she is, and that she is making good progress. I tell her how proud I am of her, that she looks beautiful, that so many people are sending their love and praying for her recovery, and I read her your hopes and get- well wishes. I tell her that I don’t want to lose her; I don’t know what I would do without her; that we are going to have a lot of fun together when she gets well. I try to give her all the encouragement and support she needs to fight this battle.
But, you have to understand that it is God with whom I am working to determine whether she will stay here or go to her reward with him. It isn’t up to me, and it isn’t up to Lea whether she recovers. We have all proven who is in charge through the tremendously powerful prayers that you have sent up, and the miraculous improvement we see as a result. We are touching God’s heart with our earnest prayer for her recovery, and God is using our earnest prayers to bring others closer to Him.
I pray, as you do, that He will allow Lea to stay here with us for a while longer. A long while, hopefully. But, I know that if it is His will that it be otherwise, that He will provide me the strength to learn from this experience and use that lesson to serve Him. I also ask Him to forgive me if I am being selfish when I pray that He will let me keep her here. And, I know that I am forgiven, because He knows what is in my heart. He knows that my love for Lea knows no bounds, and yet, I recognize that she is His first and last.
What a wonderful life we have had together! I couldn’t have had a better partner! We have shared so much joy through our extended family of friends and relatives! I have truly been blessed, as so many of you have, just because you were on the receiving end of that beautiful smile and warm personality. I celebrate her, and our life together. What more can you ask of a lifelong relationship?
Thank you again for your love for the one I love so much,
Larry
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March 16, 2007 at 7:49 am
Prayers
DAY TWENTY-FOUR RESPONSES
FROM: Gracie
Aug 8 @ 2:16 AM
Larry , I wanted to talk to you but just couldn’t get myself to say anything, that is until I read Dave’s letter. I’m not really sure who he is but it was a heart wrenching letter.
I lost my sister Laura, affectionately called, Lolly two years ago this past June to metastasis cancer in her bones and else where. She’d had breast cancer 8 years prior and we thought it was gone but it returned with a vengeance. My sister Karen gave Sheila a picture of Lolly taken on their vacation. She was standing in a boat. It was taken on one of the Great Lakes. Sheila said while she looked at the picture and prayed for Lolly she saw her waving her back smiling and shaking her head no. She told Karen, Lolly’s soul wants to go Home.
I just want you to dwell on this thought and see if it is Lea’s desire to stay here or are her loved ones prolonging her departure because of her deep love for you all and seeing your needs for her to remain. I am your loving friend. My letter to Dave is below:
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FROM: Gracie REF: Larry & Lea Update from Dave
Dave, I am just a friend of the family but I’ve had this thought and I have so wanted to express it but haven’t had the nerve and somehow another I over looked this letter. My daughter opened it and I missed reading it.
Sometimes our need to keep a soul here prolongs their departure even though it is time for them to go. It is apparant to me that sweet Larry can’t bear loosing her. I want to ask him to let it be her choice, not his! From his heart he needs to free her and let her leave if this is her desire.
OMG, if it were my choice, I’d far rather go Home to my Heavenly Home than go through this Hell she’s enduring on earth.
FROM: Link
Aug 8 @ 7:31 PM
A note to share with you…
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FROM: Sue REF: Larry & Lea Update from Dave
Dear Link, It was good to see you at church. I pray you found comfort in the encouragement that everyone who has been praying gave you. After reading Dave’s account of what has been happening my heart broke for your mom and dad, but I knew the Lord was with them and ministering to them in the depths of their souls. I hope your mom recovers and is miraculously relieved from this immense pain in her body.
I pray the Lord continues to draw you near as well and comforts you with His Presence during this difficult time. Knowing that we have a Father who Equips us and supernaturally enables us to draw near to Him to look to Him and Trust Him in times like these is a great comfort to me and I am sure it is also to you. After all you are His child as well, and He is willing and able to be everything you need in this season. I pray His love will enfold you and your family, and keep you all close to Him.
FROM: Kellie
Aug 8 @ 8:48 AM
Larry, Thank you so much for putting me on the update list. Lance stopped sending them to me and I was so upset by what has happened and continue to think of both you and Lea constantly. Luckily Teana filled in some of the updates while I was not getting the emails. All of my love to you both and please let me know if there is anything I can do for either of you. Also, I hope that you received my e-card for Lea. I know you have been reading all of them to her. What a wonderful pair the two of you are and you both touched my life deeply. So, as I said before, if there is anything I can do to help just let me know.
FROM: Dean
Aug 8 @ 9:34 AM
Larry, Thanks for the good news! It will make my day better. We love you and Lea.
FROM: Dallas
Aug 8 @ 10:15 AM
Dear Larry and Lea and family, I heard the news and was dumbstruck.(not a far way to go for me) by what has happened. I raised you all up for prayer request at Church, that’s when Preacher told us of the generosity of your family (no surprise to me) in the giving of the canned goods. Is there anything at all I can do to help, money, I’m sure is in great demand, I don’t have much but I can try to raise some, I can fix up some cans to distribute around some of the stores and convenient stores that I regularly stop at.
If there is anything you might think of around your home, or just anything ,above and beyond my continual prayers for complete restoration of Lea’s health, just let me know. I never said it so much in words, but I do love you guys. I would do anything I can to help you, Know that I am a servant to you, should you need me. Gods blessings to you all. Take care.
FROM: Stacy
Aug 8 @ 12:02 PM
Praise God!! I am so happy to hear of Lea’s progress! I am so sorry its been such a rollercoaster ride for you. I am amazed at how strong you are. I’M sure you are relying on many verses, but the one that comes to mind is “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Phillipians 4:13 I know you have being held up by God at this moment or you would not be able to stand at all. I pray that you continue in his grace and peace.
FROM: Marlowe
Aug 8 @ 12:56 PM
Dear Larry, Just to let you know, we’ve been on that roller coaster with you, and rejoice at the latest miraculous turnaround Lea has made! I prayed as hard as I ever have on Friday evening when things looked so grim, with your and Lea’s photo from Lance’s website there on the screen to bring you closer. We were so relieved and could breathe again when we called Kristin and Lance, who had just talked to you and said the crisis had passed.
Many of the friends and family I have been forwarding your updates to have commented on how inspiring your reflections are, and have joined in compassion and prayers for all you are going through. Last week we were staying in Santa Fe for a conference and didn’t have internet access, but I was able to hear some of your updates via Yahoo by Phone. For some reason, it couldn’t read some of them, so I relied on the nurses’ reports. I must say that those reports don’t begin to convey the gravity of Lea’s condition-I was feeling quite reassured that she was progressing smoothly until we got home late Friday and got Lance’s emergency prayer request!
Also last week, while away from home, I became ill with fever and chills and was diagnosed with a urinary tract infection. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I thought of Lea, the fragility of life and good health, and offered up my small suffering for her healing. I also thought of you and your devoted, anguished vigil by her bedside as Dean worried about my condition and tried to do whatever he could to help out. Now that I am almost back to normal, I am even more thankful for the gift of good health and for the miracle of antibiotics, and trying to live each moment to the fullest.
Larry, thank you so much for your sharing of the visions you had last spring. I had heard about them as dreams, but this is quite different, although I do believe that God communicates with us in dreams and visions if we are open to the spiritual realm. I hope and pray that these were warnings meant to bring you closer and more appreciative of each other and not prophecies of the outcome! How merciful the Lord is to prepare you in this way for what was to come! And how courageous of you to share these events, which many might scoff at or think you slightly “wierd”. I’m sure most people were deeply touched and that their own attitudes will be changed in a postive way-I agree that this kind of extraordinary experience is given not just for ourselves but to share with others.
I am also looking forward to the day when Lea wakes up and begins to talk about whatever she might have experienced during all these events. Will she report “out of body” experiences or visitations by angels or moving through a tunnel toward a bright light? I know that both of you will be changed forever by all that you are going through; and that spiritually you will be much advanced. May the Lord continue to Bless you and keep you both enfolded in His Loving Arms,
FROM: Link
Aug 8 @ 2:02 PM
A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?” The other friend replied “When someone hurts we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Do not value the THINGS you have in your life. But value who you have in your life!
FROM: Robyn
Aug 8 @ 4:04 PM
Larry, i just want to let you know that you, Lea and everyone involved are still on my mind and in my prayers daily. I am humbled, awed, and moved to tears by the amazing faith you and your family obviously have. Your love of God comes through in every e-mail (Gary forwards them to me) and on Lea’s prayer page. In this time of seeming darkness…what a light you our shining for our Lord.
Through the wonder of the web i can’t even imagine how many people are being touched by Lea, you and your family. People that you don’t even know want updates on you all. There are so many unsaved people that don’t have a clue how to get through tough times….what an example you are of how to go through the storm.
And Lea! when she is finally on the other side of this will have such an awesome testimony and i know God will bless you guys in a mighty way. I’m sure there are times that you’re just exhausted and spent and maybe don’t even feel like praying. Know that during those times the rest of us in cyberspace have your back and our faith in the Lord will keep you covered. Love and God Bless to you and Lea.